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OPENING THE SPIRITUAL VALENTINE : TRUSTING IN LOVE AND LIFE Dear Little Light: Several years ago I was divorced from the man I had thought to be the love of my life. He had betrayed and deeply hurt me and our children. Since then I have had sufficient opportunity to be with other men but can’t seem to muster up the courage to take a risk in loving again.. I like the idea of sharing my life with someone if I could be sure that a close relationship would not create pain and havoc again in my life...especially now when my home and lifestyle are fairly peaceful and stable. And I don’t want to subject my children to the possibility of more heartbreak. But I feel very alone at times and wonder what I am missing. Afraid to Take a Chance
Dear Afraid to Take a Chance: To put our faith and trust in another whether it is romantic, family, friendship or the opening to a stranger is the greatest gift we can give to another. It is also the most blessed level of soul opening and connection that enriches our own lives.. But it can only be birthed from the release of fear and darkness that holds us captive in the past. You have been severely wounded and your victim story and attachment to that story create normal human reactions of self protection and defense. It also human to desire to shield your children from further pain. And yet, in Truth, Universal truth, all pain has purpose, all challenges bring opportunity. And from that perspective, perhaps you are being asked to open to the possibility that it is your perception of reality that creates fear, not reality itself. To be more conscious of your own world filter consider what beliefs were born out of the heartbreak you experienced that guide your life now.. How do you see your role as a potential partner or your accountability in your past marriage? How do you judge yourself and your ex-husband? What messages do you use as your inner mantra that say “I cannot” or “ I am not..”? Within the belief pattern lies fears..fears that if you name them allow you to begin the journey into releasing them: Fear of not being worthy of love? Fear of not being safe emotionally? Fear of not being the perfect mother ? As you name the fears and tune into your beliefs, meditate upon the gifts that your painful experience has brought you. The gift of survival beyond devastating hurt. The gift of independence creating your own empowered “stable and peaceful lifestyle” The gifts of strength and courage. And know that these same gifts were also there for your children if you give them the opportunity to see them! Through gratitude for all that life affords us, we find the antidote to being and living the victim. We create the potential for forgiveness of ourselves and others. Through acknowledging the fears and beliefs that hook us into past stories we have the choice of new behavior and fresh perspective. Your path and your childrens’ can unfold more joyfully when you are willing to embrace it all, honor it all, forgive it all. Here is where you find what you are missing. Here is where trusting in love enters with faith that all transpires for your good..
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